Don’t Let The Ex Threaten The Current Relationship

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6 Comments to “Don’t Let The Ex Threaten The Current Relationship”

  1.   Seth said:

    Things between me and Ron were great, but once i returned from travel w/out him, i seem like i am receding of affection. He’s an excellent guy and we’re similar -background, family existence & personality. I’d rather not lose a possible husband. 1) I would have began this relationship with Ron too early after splitting up w/ my ex 2) Marriage appears to become happening to soon 3) Feelings to have an old crush, Paul, returned. I’ve known Paul for any very very long time, he’s very caring, but he doesn’t appear to wish more w/ me. He’s not the same as me, i’m calm and reserved versus he’s such as the clown. Now, I’m considering ending the connection with Ron since i don’t believe that my feelings for him could return and that i shouldn’t waste his time. Despite the fact that i’ve feelings for Paul, i shouldn’t uncover what it really turn into (he’s my ex’s friend, and i’m his ex’s friend). I believe which i must take a while and extremely uncover things i need and wish. Exactly what do u think about my decision?

  2.   stingerms said:

    My father is an alcoholic and my mother has borderline personality disorder. My relationship with my parents is difficult and I was having a very hard time coming to terms with who they are. My school advisor recommended me to one of the campus therapists. I’m finally starting to feel like their troubles are not my fault.

    My boyfriend and I were in the cafeteria of a mall when my ex approached us to say hi. My ex told me he was surprised to see me, but that it was a good surprise. He introduced himself simply by his name. He didn’t mention that he and I once dated. We talked for a while and then he left.

    After he was gone, my boyfriend repeated his name in a question tone. My boyfriend and I have talked about our past relationships to the extent to which we are comfortable with. He’s answered all of my questions regarding his ex-wife and I’ve answered his about past boyfriends. He must have recognized the first name of my ex as the guy I dated behind my father’s back.

    I said that the man he just met was that ex. He got weird and shut down. We finished at the mall and left. That night, he was quiet and distant. I kept asking him what was wrong and he said he needed to think more before he talked about it. He slept on the couch, so I knew right away that something was very bad. Today, he came home from work and told me he was ready to talk.

    When he and I first started dating, he was worried about the age difference. He is 39 and I’m 20. He asked why I didn’t tell him about my ex. I said I did and he said I wasn’t 100% honest. I asked him what he was talking about because I didn’t lie. He said that I “certainly left things out”. I knew right away he was talking about my ex’s age, who will be 43 in a few weeks.

    He had told me when I first started pursuing him that he was worried because I might have unresolved issues with my father. I told him I don’t and I prefer men over boys. We talked more about it and it felt like an interrogation. I answered every question he asked and he was expressionless the whole time.

    When I was 9 years old, my father was demoted at his work place from divisional manager. Someone else was replaced him, was fired a couple of years later, and then replaced. I first saw the second replacement, my ex, when I was 13 years old and hanging out in my dad’s office because I was sick that day. He and my dad talked and my ex left. At a company party about a year later when I was 14, my ex and I started talking. At the time, he was 36. I started liking him the day of the party and began going to my dad’s workplace after school more often.

    Eventually, my ex asked me if my dad knew I liked him. I told him no and asked him how he knew I liked him. He told me “lucky guess” and told me I’d be smart to stay away from him because he’s older, married, and things could get ugly. I told him I didn’t care about all three of those things as he was leaving and he smiled and left. I kept visiting my dad at work for a couple more months. Throughout that time, he told me I was a silly girl who didn’t know what she was getting herself into. I asked why he hadn’t asked my father to stop letting me visit if I was so silly. He told me I was more observant than he thought and that he’d reconsider.

    A few more weeks went by and he told me “I’m not going to pretend I don’t find you attractive, but we have to keep this a secret”. He and I began seeing each other at that point and I lost my virginity to him shortly after. Years went by and a few months after I turned 18, his wife found out about us when she came home early from work. She was supposed to have a doctor appointment afterwards but she cancelled it. She threatened to divorce him and he completely stopped communicating with me. A few weeks after we were caught, he told me that the whole thing was wrong and a mistake. He said we shouldn’t see each other anymore.

    In January of this year, I saw him at my father’s workplace again. I went there that day thinking it was his day off, but it turns out he was working that day because he had an important project. My feelings were still there and I could tell his were too. Less than a week later, we were seeing each other secretly again.

    I felt guilty because of his wife of 18 years and he and I argued a lot over who he cared about more. He said he thought divorce would be hard on his kids (now ages 10, 8, and 7) and I said that sometimes divorce is better for kids than having two married parents who constantly fight. Towards the end of February, I told him that our relationship was wrong because of his wife and he said he was leaving her and showed me papers. I told him the guilt of being with him was too much and left. We went months without talking, but are now friends. He and his wife decided to call off their divorce and work on their family.
    My boyfriend is now worried that he’s a surrogate boyfriend and asked if I ever told my therapist about being molested and I was really offended at his words. I told him it wasn’t molestation and that my ex helped me through my depression and saved my life countless times without even knowing it. He told me that I should talk to my therapist about it and I told him I’d rather not. We talked about it more and I told him I’d think about it. I asked him if he was upset and he said he’d think about it. He slept on the couch last night and is sleeping there again now. I’ll talk to the counselor if it’s that important to him. I’m just worried that if I mention the fact that I was 14 and my ex was 36, she’ll call the police or something. I don’t want my ex to be in any trouble because I do not feel like he ever violated me. He helped me through a lot of rough times. Without him, I don’t think I’d be here today. I think of him as a friend. I’ll be very upset if either of us ever gets in troubl
    trouble** for the relationship we used to share. Would the counselor contact the authorities?

    Thanks for reading this and sorry it was so long!

  3.   mendhak said:

    im 23 just got out of an abusive relationship with my 31 yr old bf. We have an 18mth old together I have no family and I met this guy 36 that owned an auto repair shop he hit on me and got my number we slept together twice, he said he was done with his gf whos 45, and the 2nd time we had sex he didnt call back. I got anxious nad upset and sent him a text saying if he was going to use me to lose his number, I then apologized and he cont to ignore me so i texted him a couple times. one time i got drunk and called him too, but he called me and complained about her saying he was cheating etc.

    i talked ot him yesterday and he basically said i scared him off and he didnt want anything to do with me. i feel used and like a piece of crapa nd like i did something wrong and mayvbe if i would have chilled out hed still be around? what do you think ?

    also he is with his gf.

    I did threaten to tell her, but i changed his mind and said i would do it that because his daughter was coming up and he didnt need the drama around, that i wasnt in the position to be let down and to treat his gf right and other women too. and i said i hope everything works out for you and you have a good life.

    he said nothing back of course’

    did i do the right thing, with how i ended it? i really liked him for some reason and i still do how do i get over it? im heartbroken ive even cried

    all this happened over the course of a mth

    I dont know if it was me. i keep blaming myself. or maybe it was a bad bet to begin with? he did tell me he had a lot going on, and was tryin to get custody of his daughters and it wouldnt be fair to involve me in all his problems or even to hang out with me. or do you think that was a line? bcus he did say i scared him off, but when i asked him what i did, he said nothing.

    Am i in the wrong or is he? and do you think if i let some time go by i could contact him again?
    BUT did i really drive him away or is he being a jerk? he knew about my abusive past too. i just broke up with my bf 2mths ago. ijust feel so worthless

  4.   Con Orpe said:

    I acquired an elaborate situation here, which is a lengthy story however i can make it as little as possible.

    I had been raped and in my ex-boyfriend I choose to simply tell him what went down in my experience since i was getting trouble being psychologically and physically near to any guy, i had been getting flashbacks, i wished by telling him, he’d produce more room and time. I felt mounted on him while he may be the only couple of individuals my world discussion. But he only have cause me to feel felt I’m not trying with enough contentration to interrupt lower my guard and speak in confidence to him, totally on the physical facet of our relationship. Obviously being naive I did not realize he was just looking to get sex from me, he used me. Soon as we split up I met an excellent guy, i have not felt that much looked after and preferred among someone before, this time around it had been real, he consider using any means for me personally and that i consider using any means for him, I put lower my guard so naturally and speak in confidence to him without him saying that i have to. We have been together for five several weeks now he means a great deal to me.

    He understood my exboyfriend happen to be annoying me since we’ve got together, but he didnt realize that we rested together. My exboyfriend screwed with my mind, saying he still thought about me, that he’s the one that is aware of my secret which i’m able to speak with him about this anytime. But he required hug as well as sex from me, if when i only say i cant since i am inside a relationship at this time, he stored annoying me, getting angry, text and make contact with me non stop, after i ignore him he threaten to blackmail me, eventually i gave in and rested with him as he guaranteed he’ll leave me alone also it was the final time. He is able to enhance the worst within me. I did not feel anything for him whenever we rested together, I felt horrible and that i stored considering my boyfriend. But my ex lied, he request to determine me over and over, every time he attempt to touch me, and every time he is able to discover a way. I seem like SHIT, finally I’d enough, after i ignore him for just two days he skyrocketed and threatened me, found my place searching for me and threaten he will inform something to my boyfriend, everything as with everything, including my past, things i did, the way i was raped, the way we rested together.

    I cried a lot, but my boyfriend was there for me personally, knowing my ex continues to be annoying me, i couldnt bring myself to inform him everything. I simply couldnt do this to him. He just understood that my ex is applying sth i reliable him with to threaten me. My boyfriend stated I do not have to inform him what went down and that he wont request as lengthy like me not prepared to simply tell him. He say he trust which i attempt to ignore my ex while he notice reasons for me. He understand how much i’m harming because Among the finest my ex to depart us alone. I told him I dont deserve him being this best to me, I made some very horrible mistakes, I’m not a great person. And that he stated he dont deserve me being so nice to him. He explained it’s not about who deserve who, it’s about being in our, everybody includes a past, everybody makes mistakes but it’s by what you need to do to any extent further. I’ll never forgive myself for which I’ve done, I really like my boyfriend, I wish to focus on our relationship. However I am residing in fear every moment that my ex will ruin everything while he know my boyfriend is the greatest factor which have occur to me since what went down. Me hurt each time we hug each time we hug, since i have no idea if this sounds like the final hug and hug and our last goodbye, if this sounds like the final time I ever see my boyfriend again.

    My counselor explained this behavior of mine is my method of punishing myself, that I still blame myself for which happened. I stored letting my ex to deal with me like SHIT, to create the worst within me, to make use of me. Because somewhere within my mind In my opinion I’m intended to be treated like this, I intended to be punished. However I also think that I deserve someone nice, and that i possess the strength and energy to like someone and love myself. I’m not seeing my counselor any longer however i don’t understand what do in order to came from here…

    Please any advice…

  5.   ScRSC said:

    Okay so allow me to begin by saying im 21 & still attending college & 6 days pregnant. I am pregnant to some guy i dated for any couple of several weeks & that does not work, smokes marijuana & that my parents hate having a passion ( I’ve been threaten to become stop in the family & financially basically even spoke to him). And also to worsen I discover I am pregnant after i began dating my ex fiancé whom I’m still inlove with & really was searching toward fixing our relationship. I’m not sure how to proceed I am scared basically keep your baby I’ll lose my family members forever & I’m going to be completely alone being careful of my baby, plus sometimes part dental assistant & wont have the ability to continue that job basically keep your baby because of the x-sun rays & nitrous and so i wouldnt have earnings, but simultaneously I shouldn’t regret getting an abortion & Personally i think bad going for a existence away. Please produce top tips I am completely confused

  6.   callofduty5123412 said:

    Here’s the storyline. I’ll try to allow it to be as little as possible. My old boyfriend and that i ended things really badly. I told him never to talk to me again. It has been almost six months, and we are in rapport with various people now. I’m very happily deeply in love with my current boyfriend. I discovered just lately that my ex continues to be deeply in love with me, despite the fact that he’s a girlfriend. His girlfriend can also be deeply in love with her ex too. Essentially both are deeply in love with their ex’s, however the only factor holding it well is always that their ex’s are generally in associations with others. My old boyfriend does everything easy to make my current boyfriend sense danger, and looking to get nearer to me. It’s worrying me out getting each of them deeply in love with me simultaneously, and getting both of them hate one another. I’m not sure how to proceed.

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